I’M SORRY BUT…THAT OUTFIT IS UGLY

That was a recent comment I received on a post. And can I just add that, that post came with editing challenges.

I find it fascinating that some people, women especially when it comes to other women, are so quick to say the first thing that comes to mind without any regard or appreciation of what it took to put that thing together in the first place. That a place of negative feedback was her first instinct. It makes me wonder what she finds so ugly in her own life.

Granted there are moments in fashion that can be described as ugly. But what’s ugly to one, is unique to another. To come from a place of right away being critical can also be a place where we get stuck in understanding ourselves. Maybe it’s ugly because we don’t feel confident enough to wear it. Or maybe because we are still trying to hide parts of ourselves, or this is a BIG one, what if other people don’t like it.

I think that’s the ticket right there. If I was constantly worried about others not liking it, I wouldn’t be doing what I’m doing now. There will be moments where I pick something, and your eyes go wide. My challenge to you is to appreciate the work that went into putting this thing together for you, FIRST, and then come back with all your feedback about why it won’t work. Everything isn’t always going to work. But that is why we TRY in the first place.

You may be wanting a new direction in your style or thinking that having a personal stylist feels too bougie. It probably is but appreciate the fact that I care about you so much and care about helping your confidence that I’m willing to put myself out there, do the trying that maybe you’re too nervous to attempt, and together we can create something stylish and fun.